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How Do You Know If You're Making The Right Decision About Your Future?

  • Apr 16
  • 7 min read

Updated: Apr 23


Woman sitting on a couch, contemplating whether she's making the right decision about her future.

How do you know if you’re making the right decision, especially when it comes to big, life-changing choices—choosing the right job, starting a business, changing careers, ending a partnership, moving across the world, ...?



In this blog post, I'm going to walk you through how to make aligned decisions with confidence and trust, and I'll share three coaching tips that will powerfully support you in your decision-making process.



By the way, this blog post is based on an episode from my What If It Is Possible podcast. If you want to go deeper, listen to the full episode here.





The Fear Of Making The Wrong Choice Can Keep You Stuck In Indecision


When faced with making important decisions that have a huge impact on your life, the biggest fear is often: "What if I make the wrong choice?"



That fear keeps you stuck in place, not moving forward. Your energy leaks in different directions vs feeling energized by going all-in on what you've chosen.



If this is you, my invitation is to do inner work around the fear. That's going to help you shift into your power and resourcefulness, and you'll see options you weren't able to see before. Making a decision from that place is going to be so much clearer and you'll be at peace with whatever you choose.



Start Making Decisions Holistically, Not Just Mentally


If you think about it, most of us are used to making decisions by relying on our analytical mind. But we forget that there's another, more powerful way of knowing that's available to us: embodied decision-making. 



Your body is the unconscious: it has access to a deeper knowing beyond your limited mind + it communicates with you through emotions. It's such a powerful tool, but most of us don't grow up listening to our bodies when it comes to decisions, which is why we don't often use it, nor do we trust it to "get it right."



It's ok to be strategic and use logic when you’re making decisions, but I want to support you in making decisions that are aligned with you. If it’s aligned with you it’s always going to be the right decision.



In my experience, there are no wrong decisions. There are just aligned and misaligned decisions.


If you're honest with yourself and look back at your life with the benefit of hindsight, would you say that you ever truly made a wrong decision?



Or did you make a misaligned decision?



Maybe things didn't turn out the way your mind/ego may have wanted, but was it really wrong? Or was there a lesson you learned about yourself, your path, and what's important to you?



Again, it’s ok to weigh the pro’s and cons. A lot of times analytical thinking is very helpful. But you also want to pay attention to how you feel about it, what your body is telling you.



The Right Decision Isn’t Always the Easiest


Often, the right decision isn’t going to be the easiest decision. It will push you outside of your comfort zone, call you forward, and invite you to choose what's really aligned with YOU.



Think of it like this: let's say you get a job offer—great pay, good and kind team, something you’d be good at. On paper, this is a no-brainer! But deep down, you know this isn't the work you want to be doing in your life.



On one hand, saying yes would be easy, since it ticks off all your boxes. But saying no and following your true calling? That takes courage. And it could be the choice that leads you to the fulfilling and meaningful life you've been dreaming of.



The Right Decision Doesn’t Have to Be Forever


We’re conditioned to believe every decision has to last forever (happy ever after, etc.). But that’s not true.



I like this saying about friendship: "A friend for a reason. A friend for a season.

A friend for a lifetime."



It's the same with life experiences. Some unfold for a reason, some for a season and some for a lifetime.


Can you be ok with that?



Can you allow yourself to trust that if something is calling you, that means there’s something there for you, regardless if it’s forever or not?



The Right Decision Is A Decision You Are At Peace With


Whatever it is, you want to be at peace with your decision and make it from your power.



Sometimes that means that you’ll first need to transform the fears, limiting beliefs and self-doubt that's keeping you stuck in indecision.



This is especially true if a part of you wants it and another part of you is terrified or has doubts whether that’s possible.



Your decision should always be yours. Advice from your family, partner, friends can be helpful, but at the end of the day, you get to decide. You are responsible for what you choose, so choose what's aligned with YOU. That way you're always on the right path.



Try It Before You Decide


This is especially true for career and business decisions. Concepts and expectations in your head are one thing, but often you have to have a lived experience so you can test out whether this choice is aligned with you.



Looking back, I'm so happy I gave myself a wide range of experiences so I could tell if they were aligned with me or not.



For example, when I was 11, I loved Britney Spears. I sang in my elementary school choir and I was convinced I was going to be a singer when I grew up. ​☺️​



Then, an interesting opportunity came my way. Five members of the choir, including myself, were invited to record background vocals for a pretty well-known band. They were producing a song for kids and decided to include children's vocals to bring it to life.



This was a dream come true. At last! I could be like Britney Spears for a day!



But then... Working in the studio felt boring. It took forever. There was lots of waiting around. When I was in the experience, it wasn't filling me up with joy or energy. It was nice and I got to spend the day with my friends, but I knew then and there that this wasn't for me.



Listen to the full podcast episode here where I share what else I tried and why I don't regret any of it.



3 Tools to Know You’re Making the Right Decision


1. Gut Feeling / Body Response



Your body holds so much wisdom and it's constantly sending you messages in the form of sensations and emotions. You just need to learn how to read them.



Here are some things you can start tracking (each of these will feel different in your body!):

  • What does a full-body YES feel like?

  • What does a full-body NO feel like?

  • What does fear or resistance feel like?



Remember that fear doesn't necessarily mean no, but it’s a signal that you’re moving outside of your comfort zone and that your system wants to protect you.



✅  Signs that a decision is a YES for you:

  • it feels exciting & a little scary

  • you have butterflies in your stomach, your body & heart react to it in a pleasant way (you feel warmth in your chest & belly, excitement...)

  • you keep coming back to it, thinking about it, imagining what it would be like...

  • it feels expansive and it calls you forward



⛔  Signs that a decision is a NO for you:

  • your body doesn't react to it, it's a colder response

  • it may feel restrictive / resistant / hard / heavy in your body

  • there is no excitement or motivation

  • it's taking you forever to decide and you keep dragging your feet



Resistance and fear are ok, they’ll come up also when you do things you LOVE because some of this stuff can be scary!



But if an experience, situation, or person drains your energy vs giving you energy, then rethink whether this is the right thing for you OR whether you need to change how you’re doing things so that the process is more value-aligned.



2. Ask Yourself: Would I Regret This?


This is simple and powerful:

  • Would I regret doing this?

  • Would I regret not doing this?



Also, try this unconscious tool:

  • If I say yes, what images of the future do I see?

  • If I say no, what images do I see?



Trust what comes up. 💗



3. Strengthen Your Intuition


Intuition is that soft, simple, and steady pull that keeps trying to get your attention. Some people describe it as a gut feeling, others say it sounds like a voice in their head or an inner knowing, some see images...



You’ll know it’s your intuition if it keeps calling you. The same idea keeps popping into your mind. It doesn’t let you go and you keep thinking about it.



Your intuition is your guidance system and it’s also your superpower that helps you make more aligned decisions.



In order to build trust in your intuition and to hear it more clearly:

  • Clear mental chatter through mindfulness, breathwork, or meditation

  • Start tracking how your intuition speaks to you (do you hear it, feel it, see it, know it...)

  • Notice what happens when you listen (track the results and where it leads you)



The more you listen to it, the louder and clearer it gets.



Final thoughts


My invitation: you can't go wrong if you follow the yes, follow the excitement, and follow what feels good in your body.



Practice tuning into your body and listening to your intuition so you can build trust in this kind of guidance too.



Analysis and research are important, but don't neglect your innate wisdom. How you feel about your decision also matters.



Loved this? Then tune into the full episode for more depth and real-life examples.



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From my heart to yours

Tajda 🌷​🫶​




Author

Tajda Glazer

Professional Life & Career Coach, Psychological Consultant and host of the podcast "What If It Is Possible?"


Life and Career Coaching Frankfurt. Tajda Glazer.

I'm a lawyer turned Professional Life & Career Coach and I've helped hundreds of clients go from feeling lost, anxious, burned out and stuck on the hamster wheel, to finding their purpose and turning their dream life & career into reality. I believe in making changes from the inside out, in a way that feels easeful and aligned with you. ✨ I host the podcast "What If It Is Possible?", mentor students in reaching their goals, and help leaders elevate their conscious leadership skills.

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About Tajda

I'm a lawyer turned Professional Life & Career Coach and I've helped hundreds of clients go from feeling lost, anxious, burned out and stuck on the hamster wheel, to finding their purpose and turning their dream life & career into reality. I believe in making changes from the inside out, in a way that feels easeful and aligned with you. ✨ I host the podcast "What If It Is Possible?", mentor students in reaching their goals, and help leaders elevate their conscious leadership skills.

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